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Steve, Your weaving through the situation is beautiful. Thanks for sharing in a way that assists me in being ever more effective.
Best to you, Larry Iverson
Phew! Blimey! I am sweating from reading all of that!
That's a lot of hard work there.
Would it not have been simpler and much more straightforward for the client to realise that it's all just a story, just thoughts, and there's nothing to it?
Thoughts, both positive and negative, pop up automatically, but whether they are positive or negative, you save a lot of time, effort, energy and stress when you realise that they are just thoughts, stories, fantasies, and not true. They are just made up.
And that there is no need to replace negative thoughts with positive thoughts, 'cos they are made up too!
Just realise that they are thoughts, and leave it at that.
Apply this to your life and your practice and life will be much simpler, happier and stresss free.
What an elegant way to shift perception and therefore the client's reality. I appreciated the reminder form John Grinder also. Being congruent is a wonderful way check on client progress and calibrate the change process itself. Thank you, Steve!
It's a great article, you and your readers might find my blog herehttp://rosieohara.wordpress.com/ , interesting, useful and funny. The blog relates to what I did when told I had breast cancer and how I used NLP, by changing my language, reframing other's meaning etc.