What a terrific article! I work with parents every day, and I find that shifts in their relationship with their children can only happen when I offer understanding of their frustration, their fears, their impulse to lash out at their child. I've heard from so many parents that they begin to hear my voice coming out of their mouth with their child. I think that's because they start talking to themselves in that loving voice first. Thanks for the neurobiological explanation of blocked care -- and healing.
love this concept! While an undergrad at South Arkansas University, I did my psychological research on "Why We Fall In Love With Who We Do" and the research concluded along this same concept. I got an A+. I use the information and research to share with teens in schools, child sexual assault survivors, and others, to help them better understand their desires, and tendencies of continually choosing the wrong mate; which in turn creates a multi-generational epidemic of abuse and child sexual assault. Well done!
Thank you! I can't thank you enough. You have confirmed and enhanced my own realization of this situation.
Thank you so much for providing this article, it is one of the best articles I have ever seen on this topic. And, as a mother of young children, and a therapist, it is extremely helpful and comforting to know that one is not alone in one's quest for the secret pearls to parental success! It also extremely helpful to know how the brain works within a parenting interaction with a child who is being cheerful and interactive, and one who is being challenging and difficult. Thank you again for this marvelous article! I first heard about the importance of connecting with one's children in a lecture given by Ed Hallowell in the spring, and I think this article provides a beautiful illustration of that concept!
I am really inspired by the research and patience that has been put into neuro-attachment research and appreciate that the frontiers of psychotherapy have been furthered - and what a challenge that must have been!