Achieving a genuine state of self-compassion is a more challenging undertaking than many realize. Far from a little feel-better incantation you offer yourself when stressed, it’s a journey into multiple parts of yourself that may include the good, the bad, the ugly, the confused, the frightened, and the abandoned.
These days, we know that warm, dependable connection is not only a primal human need, but also a critical ingredient in good therapy. While we want our clients to feel safe, secure, and genuinely seen by us, our job as therapists requires us to also inspire, challenge, and even provoke them into new ways of feeling and thinking. A warm heart and comforting presence simply isn’t enough. The best therapists bring a two-tiered approach to the consulting room—a stable, supportive holding presence and the clinical ingenuity to evoke something both unexpected and enlivening in the client.
At this year’s Symposium, we’ll focus on this vital, but delicate, combination of almost contrary clinical traits—the ability to make clients feel safe and comfortable while at the same time nurturing the capacity for clinical daring that can propel clients outside the narrow range of their habitual comfort zones. In doing so, we also want to explore the qualities of self-awareness, personal expressiveness, and authenticity that are too often ignored in the increasingly rushed, impersonal atmosphere of clinical training today.
Therapists and the Dilemma of Divorce