It can be hard to get around your young clients’ defense systems so that the good, therapeutic information gets through.
That’s why Charlotte Reznick, author of The Power of Your Child’s Imagination, uses “animal friends” with her young clients—imaginary creatures she helps kids invent to express their feelings, cope with problems, and even practice new behaviors in therapy and outside.
It can be hard to engage your younger clients.
According to Janet Edgette, author of Adolescent Therapy That Really Works, “We already know some of the things kids don’t respond well to in therapy—excessive questioning and standardized treatment protocols included.”
So what does work? Janet says it takes authenticity, perspective, and knowing how to make kids feel like they’re being listened to and respected. Read more
Young kids can’t self-soothe and regulate emotion like adults can.
So in situations when children are misbehaving, repercussions like Time Out often lead to making the behavior worse, because they feel misunderstood and alone—leading them to act out even more.
Martha Straus, author of No-Talk Therapy for Children and Adolescents, says that when these situations occur, we need to “loan” them our adult limbic brains and emotional stability to help kids feel attended to and comforted. Read more
How do you create an atmosphere that your teen clients will value rather than resist?
According to Ron Taffel, the 1-2-3 combination is to be less guarded, more spontaneous, and stop worrying that being yourself—warts and all—will weaken your credibility.
Teens are looking for authenticity and when they find the real thing, they’ll engage. Read more
Dan Siegel knows that nobody—especially an angst-filled teenager—likes being told what to do.
That’s why he takes a more roundabout approach to connect with younger clients. He claims the first thing you should ask is, “Would you like to know more about your brain?”
By taking the emphasis off of “talking about feelings” and placing it on science, Dan creates a space that can lead to action-oriented solutions and positive growth. Read more
Shame is an emotion that isn’t healthy. Unlike guilt–which causes remorse for something you did wrong–shame can cause someone to feel as though they are defective as a human being. David Wexler, author of Men in Therapy: New Approaches for Effective Treatment, discusses how the experience and perception of shame affects male clients.
In this brief video clip, David explains why shame in the consulting room is so dangerous for both the client and therapist. Read more
Have you ever wondered if some men in your practice are simply unable to listen, connect, and empathize with their partners?
According to Pat Love, it’s more likely that our definition of empathy is just too narrow. The latest research in brain and gender science reveals the many ways men and women experience many aspects of relationship differently. Read more
According to Patrick Dougherty, the biggest problem men have in psychotherapy isn’t that intimacy and the language of emotion is such foreign territory, but that therapists expect so little of them. In this clip from our Webcast series, A New Blueprint for Engaging Men in Therapy: Six Key Skills You Need to Master Now, Patrick explains what he means and demonstrates how raising the bar for male clients expands their capacity for relationship and intimacy. Read more
A man’s sexuality informs everything he does—how he approaches his work and recreation, meets or avoids challenges, relates to others, and how he feels about himself. Read more
When an adult is in your consulting room, it’s understandable if you use adult language and logic. But at certain points in the healing process, you may need to communicate with someone else—the client’s child part. Read more