Author Archives: Psychotherapy Networker

Ron Taffel on Creating Conditions for Connection

How do you create an atmosphere that your teen clients will value rather than resist?

According to Ron Taffel, the 1-2-3 combination is to be less guarded, more spontaneous, and stop worrying that being yourself—warts and all—will weaken your credibility.

Teens are looking for authenticity and when they find the real thing, they’ll engage.

Here’s how it works.

This video is from our Webcast series A New Road Map for Working with Kids and Teens: Getting Through to Today’s Distracted Youth. The series features Ron Taffel, Charlotte Reznick, Daniel Siegel, Lynn Lyons, Martha Straus, and Janet Edgette—clinical innovators who will offer practical guidance on ways to get through to even your most resistant young client and improve positive outcomes in your work with kids and teens. Learn more about this limited time re-release Webcast series.

Understanding the Significance to Male Clients

Shame is an emotion that isn’t healthy. Unlike guilt–which causes remorse for something you did wrong–shame can cause someone to feel as though they are defective as a human being. David Wexler, author of Men in Therapy: New Approaches for Effective Treatment, discusses how the experience and perception of shame affects male clients.

In this brief video clip, David explains why shame in the consulting room is so dangerous for both the client and therapist. Read more

Pat Love on rethinking the “empathy gap” in light of the latest science

Have you ever wondered if some men in your practice are simply unable to listen, connect, and empathize with their partners?

According to Pat Love, it’s more likely that our definition of empathy is just too narrow. The latest research in brain and gender science reveals the many ways men and women experience many aspects of relationship differently.

In this clip, Pat explains the neurobiology of male empathy and what that looks like in the consulting room. This one is practice-changing.

This video is from our Webcast series A New Blueprint for Engaging Men in Therapy: Six Key Skills You Need to Master Now. The series features Pat Love, Terry Real, David Wexler, Esther Perel, Patrick Dougherty, and Holly Sweet—clinical innovators who will help you master new approaches to engage men in therapy and improve positive outcomes in your work with men and couples. Learn more about this limited time re-release.

A Relational Approach to Helping Male Clients

According to Patrick Dougherty, the biggest problem men have in psychotherapy isn’t that intimacy and the language of emotion is such foreign territory, but that therapists expect so little of them. In this clip from our Webcast series, A New Blueprint for Engaging Men in Therapy: Six Key Skills You Need to Master Now, Patrick explains what he means and demonstrates how raising the bar for male clients expands their capacity for relationship and intimacy. Read more

Esther Perel on using language that reflects sexuality as an integrated part of life

A man’s sexuality informs everything he does—how he approaches his work and recreation, meets or avoids challenges, relates to others, and how he feels about himself. Read more

Janina Fisher on how and when to speak to a client’s “child part” in the consulting room

When an adult is in your consulting room, it’s understandable if you use adult language and logic. But at certain points in the healing process, you may need to communicate with someone else—the client’s child part. Read more

Joan Klagsbrun on 3 simple Focusing techniques that really work

Intense emotion in the consulting room can leave some clients overwhelmed; others shut down. Either response can derail your session. Now here’s some help for getting therapy back on track and moving forward in real time.
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How to create a brain-change plan with your angry clients

Is it possible to overcome the typical oppositional response of a client with anger issues?

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Bill Doherty on how to handle the issue of progress before it becomes a therapy crisis

Don’t wait till you get bored. Don’t wait till drastic action is the only option.
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