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SOA13 207 with David Schnarch

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One Response to SOA13 207 with David Schnarch

  1. lizcolten says:

    Helpul presentation. I am currently working with a young couple who are “best friends.” However she has an aversion to him sexually. He is very attracted to her but has little sexual experience and feels insecure. This is a huge turnoff for her and she wishes he could be more aggressive and “manly.” Her history before him, as an only child, was overly protected so she rebelled and was a bit promiscuous in high school while sent to a youth group that promoted celibacy and “saving oneself for marriage.” Fascinating couple and, incidentally, they are both in 12-step recovery: she for alcoholism and he for pornography (only sites with women posing….no couples). I would be so grateful for some ideas in regards to him being able to challenge her on why she “wants” to hurt him. She has had one cheating incident where she was with a man who has a bad boy reputation and disrespectful to women.

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