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SOA13 201 Keynote with Tara Brach

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2 Responses to SOA13 201 Keynote with Tara Brach

  1. joystar says:

    Sometimes as healers, teachers we have what we consider as “compassion” but is something else–an understanding of someone that makes excuses for hurtful, inconsiderate, or inappropriate behaviour. This has been called “the compassion trap” and I have often fallen into it. In these instances, what is misconstrued as understanding becomes colluding and enabling and what is truly compassionate is boundary setting, confronting, and constructive criticism. Mindfulness and reconnecting with one’s true nature assists with clarity so as to differentiate between true compassion and colluding with the separate self of another.

  2. mgibson says:

    In this presentation, Tara Brach’s focus was on deliberate practice of mindfulness. She describes moving from a place of our reflexive fight or flight mode to an intentionally chosen one of tend and befriend. Mindfulness as described here focuses attention to just two questions–first, “what is going on here?” and second “can I be with this, can I let this be?” Deliberate practice here is a process of repeating a practice over and over to literally change our brain’s pathways. Simple–just two questions–but, Brach comments, not easy and not fun. One can intentionally focus on one gesture of kindness, and choosing to make that gesture repeatedly. Over time, deliberate practice brings with it a gradual sense of coming home to who we are.

    Every time I view a presentation with Tara Brach, I experience this deep sense of peace and connectedness–that quality comes through, amazingly, even in a video viewed on my computer screen. Brach’s quiet, focused confidence is inspiring. She embodies the essence of what she is teaching by her very presence. With her example, this process becomes one that is doable. As a therapist, I feel empowered to go forward with this example for myself and thus for my patients as well. I am deeply grateful for this presentation.

    Merrilee Nolan Gibson, Psy.D.
    Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

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