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SOA13 104 with Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson

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4 Responses to SOA13 104 with Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson

  1. Tvigar says:

    This is my first psychotherapy networker SAO event, and my initial reaction is a bit dissatisfied… The interviewer is too verbose with multiple closed questions, I’d rather hear the presenters present vs a verbose interview, or a repetitive interviewer. I would think that the presenters are skilled enough to guide us as they present vs needing a verbose insecure interviewer.

  2. jeremyebrown says:

    The correct supplemental video has been added to the video viewing page for this session.

  3. rinanyemah says:

    I really like the emphasis on changing the attitude towards change rather than focusing on solutions to the problem. The exercise with the index card is great! I can see how this can really impact the couple’s perception of each other and motivate them to work.

    There are many different types of couples that are challenging some of which were discussed. One in particular are those that come to therapy with infidelity issues. I feel that trying to shift the attitude towards change for the partner who was cheated on can be more difficult because of their sense of entitlement as the ‘victim.’ Can anyone offer any feedback on this issue? How best to focus on changing attitude about change when focus is on being betrayed and the affair.

  4. lizcolten says:

    once again I have enjoyed the ideas of a bader/pearson webinar…..actually tried the index card exercise today with a couple that has been coming for a few months…….they struggle with a focus on the event instead of how they discuss the event and they invariably fall into blaming, defensiveness and self-protection……this exercise went very well today and they were both surprised at their ability to take responsibility for their own part in the difficulties….it was a nice format for them that made sense and was a practical tool that encouraged an attitude shift ……

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