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When A Couple’s Way Of Relating Is Lifeless And Entrenched

How To Create Intensity To Energize Partners And Shift Old Patterns.

We’ve all seen couples who’ve been avoiding issues for so long that their interaction feels sapped of vitality, intimacy, and energy.

According to Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson, a big challenge for these couples is that they don’t have insight into what would begin to make a difference. So it’s up to the therapist to help them have a more intense experience with each other in the consulting room.

In this quick video clip from our webcast series—Who’s Afraid of Couple’s Therapy?—Ellyn and Peter tell a story from their own practice that illustrates just how well this can work.

I think you’ll love this one. Click on the frame below to watch and listen.

This is just a taste of what you can learn from our acclaimed webcast series—Who’s Afraid of Couple’s Therapy?. It’s an insightful, practical series that not only explores the common difficulties of couples therapy, but also gives you practical tools, concrete approaches, and inspired examples of how you can do more effective and rewarding work with all the couples you see.

The series features 7 recognized experts in the field—Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson, Hedy Schleifer, William Doherty, Esther Perel, Jette Simon, and David Schnarch.

Who’s Afraid of Couples Therapy?
All 6 Sessions Available May 23
Click here to sign up now.

Ellyn Bader, Ph.D., and Peter Pearson, Ph.D., couples therapists for more than 25 years, are the founders and directors of The Couples Institute and creators of the Developmental Model of Couples Therapy. They’re the authors of In Quest of the Mythical Mate: A Developmental Approach to Diagnosis and Treatment in Couples Therapy.

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2 Responses to When A Couple’s Way Of Relating Is Lifeless And Entrenched

  1. One idea would be to offer an adjunct session with an EAGALA model EAP (equine assisted psychotherapy) for these couples, being that EAGALA is in 50 states and over 40 countries now its easier to access. In fact in the state of NJ, we are now offering monthly couples groups to enable couples to have a novel experiential approach to breaking through ruts in a non-judgmental, yet quite revealing set up… Anyone is welcome to attend a free demo on Saturday May 11th to SEE what the heck we are talking about…
    Spring Reins of Hope (Getting to the Horse of the Matter) is located in Central NJ – you can find an EAGALA program in all 50 states and over 40 countries worldwide, sometimes the answers to life’s most complex and layered questions just might come from…A HORSE!

  2. If I had a lifeless couple who needed energizing, I would take a much needed nap!

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