527 The Fantasy Bond: Confronting the Illusion of Connection
Saturday Afternoon Only
Many couples who believe that they’re truly intimate are actually symbiotically joined and mutually dependent, with blurred boundaries that are nearly invisible. . .
However, they aren’t really intimate, because genuine intimacy requires each partner to have a strong, differentiated sense of self. Most people fear intimacy, but are also terrified of being alone. Their solution is to form a fantasy bond--an illusion of connection and closeness--that allows them to maintain emotional distance and
the fantasy of being in love. In this workshop, we’ll explore Separation Theory, a model that integrates psychodynamic, existential, and family systems work to help couples recognize “fantasy bonds,” enhancing their sense of differentiated self, and increasing sexual and emotional intimacy. You’ll be introduced to Voice Therapy, a technique that accesses core beliefs in the presence of emotional arousal and facilitates change in attitudes. This method combines insight with affect to help clients break fantasy bonds and enhance their sense of a separate “real self.” Lisa Firestone, Ph.D.
, a clinical psychologist and education director of the Glendon Association, conducts workshops on suicide, Voice Therapy, and relationships. She’s coauthor of Sex and Love in Intimate Relationships; Creating a Life of Meaning and Compassion: The Wisdom of Psychotherapy; and Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice.