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Sure enough, each broad personality type does fraternize with a different crowd, wants to live in a different place and has different religious values. These four types even doodle differently.
All the statistical data collected on this sample of 39,913 anonymous men and women, what I call the Personality Type Study—as well as information from genetics, neuroscience, anthropology, psychology and other scientific disciplines—form the basis of my understanding of Explorers, Builders, Directors and Negotiators.
The Mate Choice Study
Next, I needed to find out if a person's biological temperament steers him or her toward a particular personality type as a romantic partner. I had some evidence that each type would be particularly suited to a specific other. Nevertheless, I did a second study, the Mate Choice Study, using statistical data on a different sample: 28,128 anonymous heterosexual members of Chemistry.com.
When I examined whom these men and women chose to meet, I saw nature's plan: Explorers are attracted to other Explorers—people with many similar traits of temperament. Builders also gravitate to people like themselves, other Builders. Directors, however, gravitate to Negotiators. And Negotiators are drawn to Directors. These two personality types are attracted to individuals with a complementary temperament. Moreover, these patterns occur whether one is a male or female.
No wonder so many scientists and laymen think that "opposites attract" while so many others believe "birds of a feather flock together." Both patterns occu r—depending on your primary personality type. I felt as if I had sneaked into Mother Nature's kitchen and stumbled on her recipes for who we love.
But how does an individual on an Internet dating site scan through an array of photographs and essays (profiles) and select, even recognize, individuals of a particular biological type?
As it turns out, our faces and our words say much about who we are.