By Rich Simon It seems astonishing that even just two or three decades ago, parents not only pretty much knew what was expected of them to turn their offspring into civilized adults, but they could actually count on society to back them up. Even more astounding, kids seemed to understand this, too. Even if they rebelled against, yelled about, or sullenly resented how “unfair” adults were, they seemed to acknowledge adult authority and realize that they would just have to wait until they turned 18 to get for themselves the keys to the kingdom of grown-up independence. 
Facing Our Fears
Why we avoid doing couples therapy
By Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson • As neuro-science increasingly shows how wired we are to our intimate partners, an important question arises for therapists: Why do we continue primarily to see people individually who are grappling with serious problems in their relationships?
Let’s stop wasting time—clients’ and our own
By David Schnarch • Conventional therapeutic wisdom aside, people typically don’t hurt each other because they’re out of touch, unable to communicate, or can’t help themselves. all too frequently, they do hurtful things with impunity and entitlement simply to gratify their own needs.
Deciding whether to be right or be married
By Terry Real • There’s an ancient saying that’s profoundly applicable to couples therapy: the laws of nature are like a miller’s wheel—they’ll grind you to powder, unless you learn to be the miller.
Treating the mixed-agenda couple
By William Doherty • Nothing can sink the heart of a couples therapist faster, no matter how battle-tested and savvy, than the mixed-agenda, half-in/half-out duo: spouse A wants desperately to save the marriage, while spouse B is already busy planning a postdivorce life.
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