I am an Imago trained therapist and today was the first time I heard Harville name the Dialogue "the listening cure." I love that. What I love about Imago is that all the ways to avoid the mistakes Wm. Doherty cautions against are built into the methodology of Imago. When I work with couples, I most often witness touching sacred moments of healing connection. It is awesome work and I walk away feeling so privileged and honored to be a part of facilitating it. Linda Marshall from Dayton, OH

I just viewed the Harville Hendrix module and especially appreciated the insight into structuring of the first session by moving the couple immediately into to Imago dialogue and putting the focus on the possible/the desired rather than allowing the couple to mourn what they do not have today.
Sandra Prillaman, Ed.S., LPC Tucker, GA

...Wonderful presentation. I attended an Imago Therapy Workshop at one of the Networker Symposiums a few years ago and was impressed with the process. I am more impressed now after seeing this presentation. I would like to incorporate Imago Therapy in my practice.
As I have begun to work with more couples, I see the validity of the Imago process. I will check out the website and look into more training opportunities. Thanks. Florence Calhoun, Los Angeles, CA.(fcalhoun2003@msn.com

I am an Imago therapist and have practiced for 20 plus years. I thought this was an excellent introduction to gives new therapist a beginning framework to work from. I have found this modality extremely helpful for creating the deep character structure change. I have also lived this model for 22 years with my partner and have experienced the healing effects of attunement and presence on my personal history and reactive defense pattern. I also believe in the healing power of universal peace by creating change in ourselves and with our clients.

Charlie Love, Austin, Texas

A wonderful overview of Imago Therapy. I was reminded of Carl Rogers' work and enjoyed the synthesis of theories reflected in the Imago model, e.g. Freudian and neo Freudian. One question that comes to mind is how to use Imago Therapy when working with couples in crisis, i.e. due to discovered affairs or other wounding life events. I often wondered if Imago Therapy is more for stagnating couples vis a vis couples in more acute despair.

Not sure I'm at the comment board....
I've just watched--and was riveted by--the Hendrix/Simon conversation. Most helpful is the image of stubbing your toe on the way to the beach, and how that postpones (for some permanently) the dream of the day at the beach--replacing it with the focus of dealing with the toe!
This process? I'm really enjoying it. (my first webinar). So convenient--and the mechanics are minimized by the dynamic interaction between Rich and his presenters.
Patty Hollister, Gottman Therapist, Las Cruces, NM.

I loved the presentation.It was clear concise and coherent. I am still relatively new to the practice of couples therapy. My question has to do with when you go to Restructure frustrations and a behavior change request has not been honored where do you go from there? Teri Harget in San Jose Ca

Thank you so much for a nice session. Dr. Hendrix started the session by saying that he asks clients to know what they would like to get from the session vs what the problem is. The problem is that I get stuck sometime with people that don't know what they want but only what they don't want. Any ideas how to help them to get in touch with that?
Thanks,
isabel Kirk
Arlington, VA

I have used Dr. Hendrix's dialogue process with most of the couples I work with with great results!I truly loved the presentation and how in such short time he puts together the core of his approach. When couples who are in great distress I found Dr. Gotma's and Susan Johnson's approach very useful in couples learning how to calm each other,and resolve conflict. Yet moving into the dialogue process ASAP creats a big shift and moments of true, deep connections in couples!It truly creates safety and trust!
Thank you for the presentation
Elsa Alanis, Ph.D. San Diego, CA

Wonderful session. I have used mirroring with couples a lot but never "is there more?" and never "you make sense to me..." and also the empathy piece. I can't wait to use it. I really enjoyed listening to this and it was presented in a very useful manner. Thank you to the networker for providing this webinars. Certainly they have been a gift. Renee-mtka, mn

Harville hendrix was excellent. I love his work and appreciate it being in the form of a webinar. Thank you!
Jackie

Thanks again for another long-crafted but still lively and inspiringly new and passionate if not idealistic way of thinking about relationships, yet also a clear picture of how the therapy looks in practice too. It is amazing how the hour of the webinar conveys not just the gist but the do-able detail of it all.

My thoughts were contrasting ones. I like the relational imago theory because it relates so well to older theories from psychoanalysis to "object relations" to attachment theory. Yet the actual practice of imago therapy is about as modern and "solution focused" as you could get! Steven Covey starts with "Have the end in mind", and this is a good example of that. So that's quite an achievement to put together all that in one package. And the global vision at the end is wonderful.

Again, I will not expect to be able to do imago therapy after one webinar, but it is great to have yet another strong model of ideas and therapy to be adding to my repertoire, and to be talking about with UK colleagues locally and nationally as we look for a way to meld couple and family therapies here.

I gather that British solution focus therapists find that British clients really feel short-changed if they don't get a bit of a chance to moan about their problems in the first session, so I imagine that British couples might not like their therapist to go straight to their dream solution! Any tips for clients like that?

In FT we learnt that the (mainly US) master therapists had advantages that the more ordinary beings in their audiences did not. It is likely to be the same yet, and for the leading names presented on this webinar series. As a therapist becomes more sure and skilled and famous, the more their clients will be actively seeking what they know they are going to get from a particular therapist or method, and more ready to do what they're asked (if not told!). The rest of us have to find our own kinds of competence and confidence with a wider range of clients who are less prepared and motivated for anything in particular. What we need is a paradox - a webinar by a leading therapist on the question of "how to be eclectic"!

Oh, and it's so impressive to see someone at ease with talking about their own personal history and problems and struggle, as well as making the neuro-psycho-physiological and behavioural aspects such an integral part of the skill and work.

Nick Child, Family Therapist, Edinburgh, Scotland