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  • 0 NP0025: Treating Anxiety: Latest AdvancesParents, Children, and Anxiety: Changing the Family Dance with Lynn Lyons 10.16.2012 19:21
    Thank you so much, I DO work with children, and the critical importance of early effective intervention with childhood anxiety has been emphasized in recent years. I have one question. Lynn Lyons talked about writing down the "4B's" and said she would have a slightly different list for older children. I did not hear what those differences would be, and this is something I would appreciate clarification on. Again, thank you. Frequently in commenting after these presentations, I ask how presented ideas relate to children, but I don't believe I have ever received a response. I would REALLY like more presentations regarding treatment of chidren's disorders.
    Merrilee Nolan Gibson, Psy.D., LMFT
  • 0 NP0025: Treating Anxiety: Latest AdvancesSingle-Session Cures with Anxiety Problems with Steve Andreas 10.09.2012 13:23
    It was mentioned that these techniques work for anxiety as well as other strong emotions, and the phrase emotional regulation was used. I work with children for whom emotion regulation is a major problem, resulting in disruptive behavior with further negative consequences for the child and frustration for both child and parent. So my question is, have these techniques been used with children, and if so how could I obtain more information about that. I would appreciate any comment or assistance with this topic. Thanks.
  • 0 NP0025: Treating Anxiety: Latest AdvancesInterrupting the Anxiety Cycle with Danie Beaulieu 10.02.2012 22:58
    Absolutely delightful presentation, so many creative and fresh ideas. I want to learn more. Thank you so much.
  • 0 NP0020 Men in Therapy: What Clinicians Need to KnowMen and Depression with Holly Sweet 07.10.2012 15:10
    Dr Sweet, I really appreciated the clarity of your presentation on a topic I certainly feel I need to know more about. I too would like to be part of the listserv. My email merrilee@gibson2.com
    Thank you so much. Oh, and something I wonder about--is how much of this discussion applies to working with boys? I have a number of boy clients, currently from age 5 to 14, and it seems to me that some of what Dr. Sweet has said about working with men may apply to working with boys as well.
    Merrilee Nolan Gibson, Psy.D, LMFT
  • 0 NP0010 Is Mindfulness Enough? NP0010, Mindfulness, Bonus Session, Sharon Salzberg 11.09.2011 14:11
    In hearing Sharon Salsberg today, I am grateful for her level-headed, simply stated, invaluable and unpretentious wisdom. I wish I could just bottle her words and hand them to patients (and keep a set for myself, of course). The thoughts about lovingkindness, about the components of action, seem so relevant to some of the troubling aspects of the lives of the people I see in my office, information that I perceive as being supremely helpful and positive. Thank you so much.
  • 0 NP0010 Is Mindfulness Enough? NP0010, Mindfulness, Session 6, Mark Epstein 11.02.2011 13:37
    Thank you for this presentation. Having now experienced several of these mindfulness sessions, I was struck anew with the idea that what you are doing with this multi-part presentation is allowing us to see different parts of the elephant that is mindfulness (borrowing Dan Siegel’s whole elephant concept). Each presenter shows us their particular understanding and experience of mindfulness.

    I am deeply grateful for Dr. Epstein’s thoughts today. As it happens, this presentation touched some areas that are already fresh in my mind. Having just completed my doctoral dissertation (whew!) which was a case study, using concepts of Rogers, and also of play therapy, led me into the world of D. W. Winnicott, who had a great deal to say about play in the course of his writing. Winnicott draws parallels between the therapy process and that of play (As Dr. Epstein did today). So the incorporation of Winnicott’s thinking was much appreciated.

    At the risk of sounding like the mythical Johnny One-Note, I feel the need to reflect once more on how all this thinking and discussion of mindfulness and therapy resonates in Carl Roger’s writings. Rogers represents the successful therapy experience as bringing the client’s experiences and feelings into awareness, which is a central theme of mindfulness practice. Rogers describes a therapeutic experience when he feels he is at his best: “when I am closest to my inner, intuitive self, when I am somehow in touch with the unknown in me, when perhaps I am in a slightly altered state of consciousness. At these moments it seems that my inner spirit has reached out and touched the inner spirit of the other. Our relationship transcends itself, and has become part of something larger. Profound growth and healing and energy are present” (Rogers, 1979, The foundations of the person-centered approach, Education, 100(2), 98-107).
  • 0 NP007 The Road to Clinical ExcellenceNP007, Excellence, Session 6, William Pinsof 08.17.2011 12:21
    Appreciated information in William Pinsof’s presentation. Very informative, quite clearly presented, perhaps a glimpse of the future of psychotherapy. I will visit this website, seek out the recommended articles, gain more information.

    Pinsof says this is his life’s work, and I do respect his commitment and the very impressive work that is being done and envisioned.

    This is now the sixth of these sessions. I as a clinician have listened with interest to all presenters. I have some concerns. It seems that each presenter has a system that they are committed to, and that works very well for them. So, if the wave of the future is in these systems, who decides which system to use? Or, how do the different systems become compatible? Each presenter has stated that they feel the use of their particular system has made them a better therapist, and I believe them.

    Therapists are an independent and contrary lot (I know this because I am one). We are seeing visions of the future of psychotherapy. Fascinating, challenging. Who decides which vision to use? What about those who are not systems people, the dedicated individualists, Rogers-style therapists, for instance, who rely on the development of their empathy and intuition and work from a place of respect for each and every individual? Are we to be left in the dust? Just asking.

    I do very much appreciate this information, and will delve further into these new and challenging areas. I do greatly respect each presenter, and value their commitment and willingness to share. Thank you all, and the Psychotherapy Networker for these presentations.
    Merrilee Nolan Gibson, MA, LMFT
  • 0 NP007 The Road to Clinical ExcellenceNP007, Excellence, Session 4, Michael Lambert 08.02.2011 16:55
    Thank you for expanding my horizons. It seems clear that I have much to learn, but when Michael Lambert says that in the end the patients benefit from the practices he describes, I as a therapist must learn more of this. I need time to digest this, and to read more, look at the slides, check the website, etc. This presentation offers exciting possibilities for the future if we who are in practice can get and apply the message.
    In short, thank you for a very thought-provoking presentation. I want to learn more.
  • 0 NP007 The Road to Clinical ExcellenceNP007, Excellence, Session 3, Barry Duncan 08.01.2011 12:01
    Thank you for another valuable session with important information. I am a Rogerian from way back, so I feel that much of this has been said by Rogers, and it is interesting to see how much discussion there is about the importance of the therapeutic alliance in current practice. I think Carl Rogers would be very pleased.
    I do very much appreciate the presentation, and to plan to avail myself of the impressive offerings of the website, and thank you so much, Barry Duncan, for your generosity in sharing knowledge and resources with us.
  • 0 NP007 The Road to Clinical ExcellenceNP007, Excellence, Session 2, Etienne Wenger 07.29.2011 12:56
    Thank you for an enlightening presentation. The "learning partners" phrase interested me. Dr. Katharine Ford in Palo Alto specializes in working with couples, and I have taken workshops with her. She calls her way of working with couples the "Learning Partners Model" and it is one tht includes both members of the couple as well as the therapists as a learning community in the therapy process.
  • 0 NP007 The Road to Clinical ExcellenceNP007, Excellence, Session 2, Etienne Wenger 07.29.2011 12:53
    Marylou, I think you touched a nerve with your comment about "critical but non-judgmental feedback." That is a quality I would very much like to locate. It seems to me to somehow tie in with the Carl Rogers nondirective model, which emphasizes acceptance and reflection without judging.
  • 0 NP006 Couples Therapy: Today and TomorrowCouples, Session 5, Michele Weiner-Davis 07.18.2011 20:26
    Thank you for a thought-provoking presentation. I really respect Michelle for her compassionate and caring approach to a very difficult topic, and for her willingness to courageously forge new paths for the rest of us.
  • 0 NP006 Couples Therapy: Today and TomorrowNP006, Couples, Session 2, Terry Real 07.13.2011 12:34
    I am coming late to hearing this session. Very much appreciated the ideas and techniques about relational mindfulness. I use mindfulness in my practice and this presentation has provided new tools. I see these ideas as being effective beyond couples therapy to family therapy, parent-child therapy. I particularly liked the example of having the person dialogue with their children's pictures about the effects of their indiscriminate sounding off. Thank you so much for very useable ideas.
    One comment--I see many remarks about poor sound quality for Terry--I am baffled by that. I had no difficulty hearing/understanding what he was saying.
    One more comment about Rich's contributions. I understand his role as moderator, and appreciate that, but I do find that his clarifications are sometimes intrusive and go on too long. We actually do get it; we don't always need a translator to understand what is being said. So--more presenter, less Rich, please.
  • 0 NP007 The Road to Clinical ExcellenceNP007, Excellence, Session 1, Scott Miller 07.12.2011 13:30
    Well, I definitely feel challenged to learn more; will start with reading articles and downloading forms from scott miller’s website. It seems I have work to do.
    I’m a little confused, though. I remember reading a fairly recent article (sorry, don’t have specifics just now) that indicated something to the effect that more effective therapy was done by more experienced clinicians in whatever their chosen therapy mode. I need to look up that reference. Still, much food for thought, much to learn. Thanks for getting me started in this area.
    I hope we are all interested in improving our clinical skills and effectiveness. This webinar provided some specific suggestions to begin a process of improvement.
  • 0 P004 New Perspectives on Practice: The Great Attachment DebateP004, Attachment, Session 6, Allan Schore 05.11.2011 10:24
    Just a comment about Rich's interactions. First, I am enormously grateful for his efforts in making these presentations happen. In most previous sessions, I found Rich's comments helpful most of the time There were, however, several occasions when I actually found myself saying "Be quiet, Rich, and let him(her) speak." I particularly had that feeling in Dr Schore's presentation. It seemed to me that Rich was being very "left brain" about "right brain" processes. While I do understand that as moderator that it is his job to move the presentations along and make the major points in the allotted time. I found his constant interruptions of Dr. Schore and his repeated insistence, with very little time remaining, for specifics of how to do therapy in the ways Dr. Schore was discussing, as very jarring and disrespectful. It really felt like Rich was hounding Dr. Schore. It was not a welcome process to behold. Rich was asking for "left brain" answers to "right brain" questions. I really had the sense that Rich just didn't get it. If he had really been LISTENING to the essence of Dr. Schore's message, I don't believe he would have asked THOSE questions in THAT way at the end of the session.
  • 0 P004 New Perspectives on Practice: The Great Attachment DebateP004, Attachment, Session 6, Allan Schore 05.10.2011 22:48
    Well, I think Mary Ainsworth, Mary Main, Inge Bretherton, to name just three women, are certainly primary attachment researchers. Also, Arietta Slade, Joan Stevenson-Hinde, Jude Cassidy, come to mind. I'm sure there are several others. This is just off the top of my head.
  • 0 P004 New Perspectives on Practice: The Great Attachment DebateP004, Attachment, Bonus Session, Ed Tronick 05.10.2011 19:15
    Well my goodness, thank you Dr. Tronick. You have succeeded in providing some meaning for this therapist. I had not previously heard very much about the ideas you presented, but I am certainly going to find out more. In hearing distinguished presenters this past six weeks, I felt somewhat perplexed at accommodating--or making meaning--out of the sometimes varied and even opposing viewpoints we have heard. I feel your approach was a kind of bridge toward greater understanding. I truly did find your presentation helpful and clarifying. It made a great deal of sense. Thank you so much.
  • 0 P004 New Perspectives on Practice: The Great Attachment DebateP004, Attachment, Session 6, Allan Schore 05.10.2011 17:42
    My left brain is put in the unenviable position of trying to express the inexpressible satisfaction of hearing and seeing Dr. Schore speaking today, after long experience of reading his words on the printed page.

    My left brain struggles to make sense of all the information on attachment, as it has evolved since Bowlby’s initial presentations, as it appears in voluminous professional literature, and as presented in the past six weeks on these web lectures, with prestigious clinicians sharing their undoubtedly valuable but sometimes widely-differing opinions in this field.

    I am just one therapist in a small practice working with patients referred by State and County mental health programs. Most of my patients are children and I do see presentations of what certainly appears to be attachment-related behavior. My job is to help these children.

    So, Dr. Schore’s message spoke to my right brain, and in many ways supported what I have known all along, as a therapist. It also seems to me that Carl Rogers was right—therapy is a way of being, and the alliance is the principal mechanism of change. Virginia Satir was right, too, in her involving of multiple senses—the whole body-- into the therapeutic experience, in her reminding us that everything we do is communication, that we are comunicating all the time.

    Donald Meichenbaum once said, in a lecture I attended, that therapy is hard work. And he is right about that: it takes everything I can muster to work with the children I see. But in addition to the hard work, there is also the joy. There is a child’s sudden delighted smile; there is the enchanting music of a spontaneous peal of laughter; there is also an unseen but vividly felt mutual presence. I am humbled and thrilled with what I learn from the children all the time.

    My right brain thanks you, Dr. Schore.
  • 0 P004 New Perspectives on Practice: The Great Attachment DebateP004, Attachment, Session 4, David Schnarch 05.01.2011 21:29
    Dr. Schnarch,
    Thank you again. I will certainly review all this in more depth. Right now, my “eagle eye,” as you put it, is already on attachment theory, at least in part. I am in the midst of writing my Doctoral dissertation. I am knee-deep in books by Rogers, Bowlby, Fonagy, Stern, Schore, not to mention Erikson, Piaget, Lev Vygotsky, Anna Freud, Melanie Klein, Hermine Hug-Hellmuth . . . well, you get the idea, I’m sure.

    I find your “in your face” approach so refreshing. My license title is “Marriage and Family Therapist” but in fact I think our preparation for couples work is beyond woefully inadequate. I have done some couples work, and I have found it quite a challenge to penetrate the glaze that has set in around the couple who have waited—as they all seem to do—to come to therapy until their situation is truly dire. But I work primarily with children, and I especially like to work with very young children, starting about age 3. So, while I find couples work fascinating I’m not doing any of it right now. My basic therapy approach is Rogers and, for children, Axline. My dissertation is a case study of therapy with a 3-year-old, and attachment issues do come into it.

    Well, I’ve probably lost you by now, so I’ll stop. Truly, I can see the value in the kind of challenge you offer couples. When I’m through with this current project, I will certainly take a closer look at what you are doing and saying.

    My sincerest thanks for your graciousness.
    Merrilee Gibson
  • 0 P004 New Perspectives on Practice: The Great Attachment DebateP004, Attachment, Session 4, David Schnarch 05.01.2011 17:11
    Dr. Schnarch,
    How very caring and thoughtful you are to provide each of us with comments. I was just reading the comment board, and there is so much material it’s like another webinar session, and very thought-provoking. I think you must be a teacher at heart. Thank you so very much for sharing.
    Merrilee Gibson, San Mateo, CA
  • 0 P004 New Perspectives on Practice: The Great Attachment DebateP004, Attachment, Session 4, David Schnarch 04.26.2011 13:19
    What an exciting and challenging presentation! What I liked most was the idea of “civilized debate." In these past weeks we have been been hearing some intense and valuable ideas that are in many not ways in agreement. But they all have merit, deserve more thought and understanding. I hope for civilized debate, something I fear I our society in general, and the world of psychotherapy perhaps in particular, has nearly forgotten how to engage in.
    Merrilee Gibson
  • 0.1 P004 New Perspectives on Practice: The Great Attachment DebateP004, Attachment, Session 2, Jerome Kagan 04.21.2011 12:38
    I place great value on acquiring knowledge in my chosen field. It challenges my thinking and helps me to be a more informed therapist, which I believe helps me and my clients. That said, for a therapist it all finally comes down to the person (or family, or couple) you see before you in the therapy session. It is essential to attend to what the client presents. Main, in her work on adult attachment discusses the narratives that we have about our lives. The stories that we hear from our clients are valuable clues to their experiences and beliefs. I believe that EVERYTHING we have heard about so far in these presentations is important—attachment, temperament, neurobiology, class, ethnicity, life experiences, genetics, parenting attitudes, etc. etc. We need to be AWARE of the importance of all these aspects, and we need to be ATTENTIVE to our client’s presentation. We can use our heightened awareness to help us toward a more complete understanding of the individual seeking our help. I am very grateful for the diverse and meaningful information we have heard thus far from our very distinguished presenters. I also appreciate the many wise and informed comments of colleagues. How truly special and wonderful that we can have these discussions, exchange ideas, and continue to learn! Dr. Kagan emphasizes the importance of a therapist working from a theory we believe in. Thank you. I do that, and I still seek greater knowledge all the time.
    Merrilee Gibson, LMFT, San Mateo, CA
  • 0 P004 New Perspectives on Practice: The Great Attachment DebateP004, Attachment, Session 2, Jerome Kagan 04.12.2011 13:27
    Thank you once again. Much valuable information in this session. I need some time to digest before I feel able to make any meaningful comment.
    Merrilee Gibson
    San Mateo, CA
  • 0 P004 New Perspectives on Practice: The Great Attachment DebateP004: Attachment, Session 1, Alan Sroufe 04.05.2011 13:34
    Thank you SO MUCH. I have read much attachment theory literature, am a big fan of Ainsworth's work as well. I am currently working on my Doctoral dissertation, a case study involving attachment issues, using Rogers' client-centered approach. As I listened today, I had one of those "Aha!" moments, appreciating the connection between quality of attachment relationships, with quality of therapeutic relationship, which is a main concern for a Rogerian therapist. Thank you, you have helped me with perspective on this case and on the Dissertation. It was a GREAT PRIVILEGE to hear Dr. Sroufe in person. I have read quite a lot of his work, and do have The Development of the Person.. I look forward to coming weeks.
  • 0 P002 New Perspectives: Ethical Standards for the 21st Century PractitionerNew Perspectives on Ethics, Session 5, Steven Frankel: Comment Board 02.15.2011 07:27
    While all sessions were valuable and provided welcome and useful information, this was possibly the very best, for the range and conciseness of the information provided. I have attended a number of Dr. Frankel's workshops,snd he never disappoints. I especially appreciate his targeting of areas and prioritizing them. It seems there is so much to be mindful of as a therapist, it is especially helpful (for me at least) to have such practical and down-to-earth comments. I look forward to reviewing information on slides; I am glad to have them available as reference. In summary, thank you very much.
    Merrilee, San Mateo
  • 0 P002 New Perspectives: Ethical Standards for the 21st Century PractitionerNew Perspectives on Ethics, Session 4 with William Doherty: Comment Board 02.08.2011 06:59
    Thank you VERY much. Excellent presentation, and the technical problems were fixed, as well (hurray!). I felt Dr. Doherty's presentation was very clear, on theme, focused, hands-on approach practical point of view. All sessions have presented helpful and valuable information; I personally felt this was the best one so far.
    Merrilee, San Mateo, Califonria
  • 0 P002 New Perspectives: Ethical Standards for the 21st Century PractitionerNew Perspectives on Ethics, Session 2, Ofer Zur: Comment Board 01.31.2011 07:05
    My first response to all of Dr. Zur's information was WOW! This is a whole area of ethical concern
    that needs FAR MORE attention than it has gotten thus far. My thanks to Psych Networker and Dr. Zur for venturing into this thought-provoking area.
    I would like to comment, though, that thus far I am staying with my (stated) boundaries in session of NO electronic distractions. I make a point of turning off my cell phone before sessions, and ask that patients do the same, unless there is a compelling reason for an exception. I believe that both therapist and patient are best served by total focus on session material, without distractions. Maybe that makes me hopelessly "20th century" but I feel quite strongly about modeling this focused attention on the patient's presenting issues.

    Merrilee, San Mateo, CA
  • 0 P002 New Perspectives: Ethical Standards for the 21st Century PractitionerNew Perspectives on Ethics, Session 1: Comment Board 01.21.2011 06:20
    I appreciated the information and style of this presentation. I have a question. Mary Jo answered several times that these ethical areas/questions are addressed in the first session. So my question is, how much time is spent in first session on ethical considerations? I find that new clients are wanting to get to discussion and consideration of their issues, particularly if there is something currently distressing to them. How do you balance ethical coverage with addressing presenting issues of the client? Thank you for your help.
    Merrilee, San Mateo, CA

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