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  • 0 NP0020 Men in Therapy: What Clinicians Need to KnowEngaging Men in Therapy 05.23.2012 08:36
    As a married man for 36 years and a therapist for over 30 years, I was fortunate enough to be placed face to face with the shame of not being good enough as a husband, father and therapist almost always on a daily basis. Through years of practicing mindfullness beginning with Krishnamurti in '73 I was prepared to face the "basic fault" influencing me. What became apparent in my marriage and in my work is that if the man is not aware of his unresolved shame then his spouse and children will instinctively not feel safe with him.
    When men would come in for counseling with their spouses or partners, I would explain my focus on the attachment history of each and how this may have limited the ability to be intimate with one another thus resulting in distressing symptoms arising in their relationship. I would explain fear and shame as the foundation of the distress and how we would begin to address it. Then the choice was up to them if they wanted to continue.

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