By Rich Simon It seems astonishing that even just two or three decades ago, parents not only pretty much knew what was expected of them to turn their offspring into civilized adults, but they could actually count on society to back them up. Even more astounding, kids seemed to understand this, too. Even if they rebelled against, yelled about, or sullenly resented how “unfair” adults were, they seemed to acknowledge adult authority and realize that they would just have to wait until they turned 18 to get for themselves the keys to the kingdom of grown-up independence.
![]() NP0020 Men in Therapy: What Clinicians Need to KnowThis blog focuses on discussion regarding the course NP0020 Men in Therapy: What Clinicians Need to Know.Overcoming Resistance in Male Clients with Terry RealMen in Therapy: NP0020 - Session 2
Learn how to get through to resistant male clients by avoiding the potential pitfalls of therapeutic neutrality. Renowned family therapist Terry Real, the founder of the Relational Life Institute, explores how to deal with male clients by highlighting the negative consequences of their resistance, and challenging them to change their behavior by “joining through the truth.” After you hear this presentation, please take a few minutes to comment about what you found most interesting or relevant, to ask any questions you have of the presenter or your colleagues, or to share any experiences. As always, if you ever have any technical questions, please feel free to email support@psychotherapynetworker.org and our Support Team will help you. Comments |
I have always felt/thought that men coming to therapy listen more to males, than female therapists. I loved your concept of "joining through the truth" and that male clients don't have to "love me" even as a therapist(male or female). I came to realize that the issue I have with some male clients disregarding/disrespecting me as therapist, therefore blowing me off, may be a matter of my approach.I still wonder how to deal with the male resistance in my own practice, and indeed my life.
I am not convinced a male such as the both of you, will even truely understand what I(a female) am talking about. I make that statement not to make anyone wrong, but what I have felt and experienced over 74 years of living and 30+ years as a professional therapist(I also have a PhD), as well as life in general. I am well educated and an intelligent women, but there are a fair amount of occasions in real life where I experience being discounted, because of my gender. I do not think that the majority of males have a clue about how they contribute to that reality, or about how that feels.
I would love to have some feedback from Terry Real about that issue. This goes beyond the therapy office into society and culture in the great old USA.