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Tough CustomersBy Rich Simon As therapists, many of us practice in two different worlds. In the first, we see polite, well-behaved, articulate clients with solid values. They engage fully in therapy, talk cogently about their problems, listen attentively to our responses, make reasonably good-faith efforts to follow our suggestions, and sooner or later get better. No wonder we genuinely like these people!

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Do you feel like you could be a more effective therapist with your younger clients? Do you find it hard to determine when interventions--psychological and pharmacological--might be needed? Join Ron Taffel and learn to identify key diagnostic signs that indicate medications could be helpful when dealing with depression, anxiety, AD/HD, and affective disorders. After the session, please let us know what you think. If you ever have any technical questions or issues, please feel free to email support@psychotherapynetworker.org.

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Peer Supervision Groups that Work

By Eleanor Counselman

Three steps that make a difference

Q: I’d like to organize a peer supervision group, but I’ve heard their failure rate is high. What do you recommend? A: Peer supervision groups provide a welcome respite from the isolation of private practice and an informal, nonevaluative setting after years of formal supervision, particularly for young therapists. They offer valuable guidance on difficult cases and tough ethical dilemmas to therapists at any level of experience. And they’re free! However, as you note, many of them fail. In my experience, careful attention to the initial contract and the ongoing group process can make a huge difference in helping them sustain their membership and thrive. Though they’re often called peer supervision groups, it would be more accurate to call them peer consultation groups. Members don’t have direct supervisory responsibility for one another’s cases: they simply offer suggestions, which members can accept or reject. They typically have four to six members who have approximately the same level of professional experience or share a specific area of interest. Members meet on a regular, usually biweekly, basis. Group consultation, with or without a leader, offers advantages over individual consultation. It includes the possibility of multiple perspectives on the same problem and the reduction of clinicians’ shame about confusions and mistakes as they share similar stories about their struggles with difficult cases. Another benefit is peer interaction, which develops one’s professional sense of self. The hall-of-mirrors effect—seeing yourself as others see you—which is so potent in therapy groups, is a major component of the supervision group experience. Nevertheless, despite the many benefits, it’s challenging to start and maintain a consultation group, particularly if it’s a leaderless one. They can fail to thrive or suffer from “task drift,” moving them away from discussing clinical material and into a form of therapy. It can be difficult to integrate new members and maintain clarity about the group’s own process. Presenting cases in supervision in any format poses obvious risks to one’s self-esteem, and group dynamics add additional risks: issues of power, competition, exposure, and shame can lead members to drop out. It’s especially challenging to manage group dynamics in leaderless groups, as it’s usually the leader’s role to remain aware of what’s happening within the group, and without a leader in charge, shame or fear of being judged may silence members. The most successful leaderless groups seem to be those in which the group members find a balance between a focus on cognitive and emotional issues—talking about cases and about the feelings that arise when seeing clients—while consciously managing the functions that a designated leader would serve. These include protecting the group contract, setting and maintaining appropriate norms, and handling gatekeeping matters, such as bringing in new members. A crucial component of maintaining an atmosphere of group safety is regular, dependable member attendance. Without this, a group will never feel like a place to take risks. Members need to be willing to bring up concerns about irregular attendance because, just as in a therapy group, member lateness and absences can indicate issues that need exploring. Chronic irregular attendance can be demoralizing and cause a group to fail. When it comes to group safety and cohesion, Woody Allen was right: 90 percent of supervision group success is about showing up. A significant issue in any supervision group is shame and the reluctance to expose oneself. To make supervision groups feel safer, therapist David Altfeld developed a model of group consultation in which all group members simply share their emotional reactions and associations to a situation being discussed, instead of one person presenting a specific case issue and everyone else giving advice as resident “experts.” This procedure levels the playing field by not allowing members to compete for the best case analysis. It leaves room for highlighting emotional issues, countertransference reactions, and parallel process. Making everyone vulnerable in this manner avoids opportunities for excessive criticism (or its counterpart, excessive niceness) and encourages emotional sharing. Another group consultation model, developed by Irish therapist Bobby Moore, focuses only on minimal case information, such as a patient’s age, length of time in therapy, and perhaps a little demographic information. Then the presenter talks about his or her thoughts, fantasies, feelings, and associations about the patient and the therapy. Group members then share their associations. Following that, the initial presenter is invited to share any further associations. Only at this point does the presenter give the facts of the case and the clinical dilemma. Finally, the group thinks together about what’s been discussed and what it indicates about the case. For those interested in the power of the collective unconscious, this is a fascinating process to experience. To succeed, a consultation group must feel safe and useful to its members. Here are a few simple principles to follow: Clarify the group structure. The group needs to agree on the frequency and length of meetings, which is best accomplished with a predictable schedule. The group needs to agree on its task and focus: is this group for any clinical issue or just for couples, or trauma, or group therapy? How much time will the group spend on “schmoozing,” and will there be one or more than one case presented each time? What will be the presentation format? While most groups use verbal presentation, some groups are now using videoclips—which makes the discussion much livelier. Agree on membership issues. How many members will the group have, and how will new members be integrated? Once a group has formed, I believe that decisions about adding more members should be a group decision. While it may be tempting to accept a request from someone who wants to join the group, a total of six members seems to be the maximum number for each member to have enough opportunities for presentations. Attend to the group process and dynamics. While groups should build in a “schmooze” or “check-in” time, there needs to be an agreed-upon limit to the socializing, so that the group doesn’t become a therapy group or a coffee klatch. Without a leader, the members themselves must monitor the group’s procedures and raise any important issues. Some groups do this ad hoc; others schedule a regular review meeting to evaluate how things are going. Leaderless peer supervision groups can help clinicians at any stage further clinical learning and combat professional isolation. They’re likeliest to succeed when the group members have a clear working agreement, maintain regular attendance, and create an environment in which both emotional and cognitive learning occurs. Eleanor Counselman, Ed.D., is a past president of the Northeastern Society for Group Psychotherapy and an assistant professor of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School. She’s published numerous articles on psychotherapy and has a private practice in Belmont, Massachusetts.
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NP0019 Parenting Skills: All You Need to Help Families Today

This blog focuses on discussion regarding the course NP0019 Parenting Skills: All You Need to Help Families Today.
 
 

Reclaiming Parental Authority with Ron Taffel

 

Parenting Skills: Session 1 – NP0019

Today’s culture, new technologies, rough economy, and many other factors undermine the foundations of parental authority. Many parents feel confused and blamed. In this series, “Parenting Skills: All You Need to Help Family Today,” we’ll explore practical tools that therapists can use in dealing with the challenges of raising kids today.

In this first session with Ron Taffel, you’ll gain a broader perspective on the social context of parent-child relationships today. He’ll explain how clinicians can help parents reassert their authority by creating effective “I mean it” moments with their kids and teens and other practical strategies for parents.

After each session is over, please take a few minutes to engage in the Comment Boards. Feel free to comment about what you felt was most interesting about the session, to ask any questions you may have of the presenter or your colleagues, or to share any relevant experiences. If you ever have any technical questions, please feel free to email support@psychotherapynetworker.org and our Support Team will help you.


05.02.2012   Posted In: NP0019 Parenting Skills: All You Need to Help Families Today   By Psychotherapy Networker
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  • Not available avatar Mary Dougherty-Hunt 05.02.2012 13:11
    Very engaging coversation with many take aways! Will use concepts to help develop support literature and services for EAP related work. Thank you!
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    • Not available avatar Ron Taffel 05.12.2012 08:57
      Thank you Mary - Any spcific areas of the literature you might want me to suggest? Ron Taffel
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  • 0 avatar Chris Blake 05.02.2012 15:11
    Absolutely. I think perhaps we should remind ourselves that we're perhaps talking about a certain group of kids/parents and it is questionable that they are black/hispanic or from some other sub culture. This is great stuff relating to suburban/urban upwardly mobile (one prays) family groups. Being from one myself, I am grateful. But there sure are others that face issues of power and abuse and poverty/want which present definitely different dynamics between children and their parents.

    I would only add that the Hyde School in Bath, ME operates its entire program around authentic parental values (principles) as the core of reclaiming or creating effective parental authority. I would recommend any books by Joe Gault as reflecting a schools take on what Dr.. Taffel described so well in his own experience. Well worth the time, Guys. Thank you so much.
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    • Not available avatar Ron Taffel 05.12.2012 09:02
      Chris - I understand how it sounds lke this is strictly from upward bound families, but as I have presented to groups all over the country, from varying economic conditions, the concerns and challenges parents and kids face are remarkably similar. Many of the ideas I present first began when I worked with the poorest of families in Brooklyn. And the concerns about losing authority are almost universal for parents everywhere. If you have any further questions, feel free to get in touch with me. Ron
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  • 0 avatar David Brown 05.04.2012 14:34
    The audio MP3 file is not the same as the video web session 1 with Ron Taffel. The video deals with parental authority, while the audio MP3 file deals with bullying. Please adjust. Thank you.
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  • 0 avatar Jeannie Carpenter 05.04.2012 19:44
    Thanks so much for making this available to us.
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    • Not available avatar Ron Taffel 05.12.2012 09:14
      Jeannie - Thank you from myself and the Networker for asking me to participate. I appreciate your taking the time to write. Ron
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  • 0 avatar Emily Drzymala 05.05.2012 20:52
    Ditto on David Brown's comment on the MP3. Is it in error? I assumed that it would be an audio recording of the video stream - ??????
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  • 0 avatar Psychotherapy Networker 05.07.2012 11:00
    Hi everyone,
    Ron Taffel's audio MP3 is now posted on the fulfillment page. Thank you to everyone who spoke up to let us know the error. We apologize for the inconvenience.
    As a reminder, to access the fulfillment page, log in with your username and password, hover (not click) your mouse over the Your Purchased Items tab, and click on the parenting series.
    Sincerely,
    The Networker Team
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  • Not available avatar beth 05.08.2012 10:24
    Ron, thanks for this interesting talk. can you speak more about helping parents "release fear?" how do you help parents do this, once they understand the fear and its roots? thanks.
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    • Not available avatar Ron Taffel 05.12.2012 09:24
      Beth - A far more complex issue than I can handle in this format. Perhaps there will be another chance to focus more fully on several of the specific clinical techniques I brought up in this conversation. I will speak to the Networker about that. Thanks for your question and response. Ron
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  • Not available avatar M 05.08.2012 17:08
    Thanks so much both of you for a helpful update (watched last night) on what's going on with our young people and their
    overwhelmed/intimidated parents.
    I felt I had to contact you re: an experience of synchronicity this morning. I was dial hopping on the radio to find music to accompany my exercise. I stumbled upon "Young and Wild and Free" and the relevance to your talk was remarkable. Basically glorifying and normalizing getting drunk, smoking weed, missing school etc etc. .....
    http://www.metrolyrics.com/request.php?lyricid=381730263&dothis=printlyrics
    I quickly checked 'synchronicity' on Google and found a quote from Carroll's Alice in Wonderland that among other things spoke of "living backwards" and it struck me that it's a good metaphor for the way that kids seem to be in control of their parents. Yes, the pendulum swung the other way and as usual has gone a bit too far. I grew up in the UK, experiencing some vestigial post-Victorian "discipline" which I found excessive, however I did respect other people (especially those who were reasonable, respectful and compassionate.)
    I'd love to collaborate in an ongoing community dialog re: ways of supporting the best in our young people (including those "under-used frontal lobes".) I love the concepts of community of care/community building.
    I look forward to reading more....
    Thanks again,
    Mary (CA Therapist)
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    • Not available avatar Ron Taffel 05.12.2012 09:32
      Mary - I appreciate your comments which certainly resonate with my experience and what I begin to describe in the conversation with Rich Simon. In fact, this is one of the central tenets of my latest book Childhood Unbound: Authoritative Parenting for the 21st Century. Your words closely parallel those of parents everywhere. The clinical interventions I began to outline in the discussion as well as creating dialogue between the adults of the community are a way that therapists can make a real difference - help parents feel less vulnerable and overwhelmed. Thanks again, Ron
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  • -0.1 avatar Matthew Gittleman 05.22.2012 15:53
    Hi Ron: I'm re-visiting your talk from May 2nd, as it has been the most useful, and even transformational, talk so far in this series. The notion that rules = values is so vital to convey to parents, and I was looking for a way to synthesize my efforts to link the parents' morals and values to their children. It's critical for kids to hear this from their parents because I think this shapes the way these kids grow into adulthood. A corollary to this is that children will reflect back to parents their interpretation of the messages they received from mom and dad in one of two ways: Either good values, integrity, kindness, and empathy for mom and dad and others, or poor moral values, lack of integrity, and growing up to be like Mitch McConnell, senator from Kentucky, who would yell at any kid to "get the hell off my lawn!"
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