Welcome to our
“Who’s Afraid of Couples Therapy?” This exciting series, back by popular demand, is based on our November/December 2011 issue on this topic and will explore the challenges of couples work.
What are the most effective strategies in working with couples? How can therapists structure therapy—particularly in the early sessions—so that couples leave with a sense of hope, rather than frustration? Can working with individuals who have serious issues in their relationships actually be detrimental to them? Find out the answers to these questions and much more. In this first session with expert couples therapists
Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson, the creators of the Developmental Model of Couples Therapy, you’ll find out why clinicians often avoid working with couples and how you can better prepare yourself for couples therapy work.
How can therapists most effectively work with emotion in the consulting room—particularly when it comes to couples therapy? Learn with internationally known couples therapist
Hedy Schleifer how to help create a nourishing connection between partners, define a role as therapist-as-guide, and much more. Schleifer, who’s pioneered the training of Imago Relationship therapists internationally, will go into how to use this theory in practice and how to best work with emotions.
What happens when partners in couples therapy have two different agendas in mind? Hear from expert
William Doherty on this little spoken about topic. Learn how Discernment Counseling, an approach that helps couples clarify their feelings about the next step in their relationship, can help both clients and therapists.
Is it possible to rebuild trust and intimacy in a couple’s relationship after a partner has had an affair? How can therapists help? Hear from
Esther Perel, author of the international bestseller Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence, on how to help couples after an infidelity and the role that cultural perspectives have in this emotional situation.
Explore this classic dynamic of couples therapy—an angry woman and a withdrawn man—that’s often confusing for therapists, with couples therapist
Jette Simon. Learn more about what’s behind the feelings of anger and the behavior of withdrawing, and how clinicians can more effectively work with shame and fear of disconnection.
Hear an unconventional perspective on couples therapy from
David Schnarch, who believes that the best way to help couples is to challenge partners to change their individual behaviors and attitudes. Schnarch’s direct, upfront approach to helping clients will illustrate a different viewpoint on effective couples therapy.
Join
Marty Klein, a marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist, us for a candid discussion about the assumptions that both clients and therapists often share that can get in the way of improving couples’ sexual relationships.
Discover with
Kathryn Rheem how to respond effectively when clients express strong feelings in session. Based on Emotionally Focused Therapy, you’ll explore attunement and how to use your own emotions to help clients move beyond attachment injuries.
After the session, please let us know what you think. If you ever have any
technical questions or issues, please feel free to email
support@psychotherapynetworker.org.
Missing for me in the mornings (PST) discussion was the neuroscience of self-regulation. The ambiguous symptoms of dysregulation Bessel was referring, are impairments in high-order executive functioning. The neuroscientific operational definition for human volitional consciousness is our frontal lobe system of executive self-direction. The VM-PFC mediates amygdala imputes into self-efficacious agency control of the inhibitory processes. Psychotherapist need to understand that self-regulation is a genet Universal deep structure and not the exclusive result of ma maternal bond.
I identify with Bessel van der Kolk’s frustration with the DSM-V process. Just as ADHD is no longer understood to be a Disruptive Behavioral Disorder by the NIMH and NIH, the DSM-V Committee insisted on continuing to use the phrase “Disruptive Behavioral Disorder and ADHD,” flatly contradicting their own policy and science. In 2008, NIMH and NIH clarified that the symptom cluster previously termed ADHD, was in scientific actuality, and neurodevelopmental disorder of self-regulation resulting from down regulation of DA/NE tonic modulation. They insist on referring to “impulsive decision making,” when the morphology of dysfunctional cognition is well documented with great specificity. ADHD is distinctive in non self-efficacious temporally mediated decision-making; with separate the symptoms from Complex Trauma, Depression, Anxiety, Personality Disorders, and other mood disorders.
I will follow his suggesting of with the DSM-V site and submit today, his imputes on adjusting Complex Trauma, being conscious of the April 20th deadline. I am already signed in on the DSM-V web site because of my interest in ADHD. The larger problem for psychotherapist in the country is their scientific ignorance reguarding self-regulation neurology.
If clinicians had knowledge of high-order executive functions, they would be more equipped to characterize accurately, maladaptive symptom presentation. The PFC serves to mediate amygdala into adaptive self-regulation. If the clinician is lacking in awareness of 21st century neuroscience of volitional agency, than the default of personality attributions made to define disruptive, inattentive, non self-efficacious behavior is mistakenly used to diagnose and treat the problem.
There seems to be a lag in clinical understanding of the paradigmatic shifts over the past thirty- years of neuroscientific achievements, which allow for coherently conceptualizing affect, social, self-care, and anomalistic symptomatic presentations. The risks of not understanding the science of human volition self-directedness has psychotherapists relying upon heuristic attachment theory, which misses the neurology of the impairment. The proponents of attachment theory have inadvertently bamboozled California psychotherapist in believing Self-regulation is acquired through acculturation. The three universal genetic endowments that our species benefit from possessing, are “deep structure” for formal language acquisition, social attribution (ToM), and executive agency top-down control. Self-regulation, except in extreme cases of early abuse, neglect, or institutionalization, is a Universal epigenetic endowment exactly like formal language acquisition.
The differential diagnoses of various executive functional impairments require knowledge of Universal Linguist Grammar and Universal Ethical Grammar, the evolutionary consequence high-order executive functioning. Neurofeedback, EMDR, cognotropic medications, and empathically attuned, cognitively resonant, psychotherapeutic relationships, all are top-down interventions that build upon agency control of affect, cognition, interpersonal sensitivity, and behavioral comportment.
I fear American psychotherapists will remain unaware of the significant transformation, presented by the 21st century neuroscience, and our profession is doomed to becoming marginalized because of basic scientific ignorance.
John Schureman