|In Consultation: The Motherhood Marathon|
The Motherhood Marathon
Acknowledging the challenge of modern childrearing
By Rick Hanson
Q: I have clients who have been overwhelmed by motherhood. How can I help them with the challenges of raising a family today?
A: Three in four women will have a child, and most will say it's the most fulfilling thing they've ever done—and the most demanding.
Motherhood isn't, in itself, a psychological or medical problem. But the challenges inherent in childbearing and childrearing can lead to clinical consequences, with studies showing that mothers are more likely to have:
- depressive moods
- more stress than fathers or women not raising children
- frequent conflicts with their partner
- lower marital satisfaction
- health ailments ranging from fatigue and intensified PMS to nutritional deficits, type-II diabetes, thyroid disease, and autoimmune illnesses.
Parenthood affects men, too, but unless there's an adoption, women face unique physiological demands, and they typically do most of the childrearing and housework. The effects are exacerbated by the fast pace, chronic stress, and diminished social support of modern life, which are at odds with the hunter-gatherer template to which family-making is adapted.